A child who is only 14 years old said that his mother has thrown him out of the house. The mother says, “I can no longer take care of you.” The child says, “What should I do now?”
So the answer is that, first of all, it is shocking that a mother has thrown her child out of the house and has withdrawn her responsibility for him forever. Because it is not easy to do this in any way, neither individually nor on a collective level. If we draw a little bigger picture, then in some societies, this is quite normal, such as in Western countries, etc. In some societies, this is subject to a certain age or certain conditions of certain actions, and in most societies, it is not at all acceptable for parents to live their lives separately from their children and remove their children from their guardianship. This is not acceptable in most human societies because parents are the whole universe for each other and children are the parents for each other. They are each other’s companions in joy and sorrow. They are each other’s spiritual friends. Parents living with their children and staying with them is very common in the subcontinent and especially in Pakistan and India and this is very close to nature it would not be wrong to say that this is the very nature. If we take it in another way, all religions have given detailed instructions on the rights and duties of parents and the rights and duties of children. This means that these two are inseparable in this world. That is, parents and children. Remember that if you and I live a life apart from nature, then of course it is not beneficial for us in any way, be it political or social, economic or social, physical or spiritual. Because we were not designed in the way we are. That is, I mean that if we live our lives outside of nature, it is not right for us.
These were some of the things that were inseparable from the question. Now, if we consider the question, the child should conduct himself according to some of the following things.
Number one is to separate from his mother as per her request and go to a suitable place where the child’s life is safe, in every respect, that is, in terms of the safety of his life, in terms of the safety of his honor and in terms of the safety of good habits. He should keep himself there. The second thing is to keep himself connected with his studies and continue his education, but at the same time pay attention to his livelihood. Take up some small job that can pay for the expenses of education and his own expenses. This will have many benefits. First, if education continues, then after graduation, he will be able to get a good job. The second thing is that he will keep away from negative things and actions. The third and most important thing is that he will not become a burden on anyone. Obviously, when you earn, eat, and spend on yourself, you will not need to ask anyone, and it will not become a burden on anyone.
It is obvious that when your mother has thrown you out of the house, how long will anyone else take care of you? How long will they tolerate you? If your parents did not keep you, then who else can be yours? Now, the next thing is that you should go and visit your mother occasionally, but do not stay there overnight. Just go for a few moments, treat her there with the best manners. One thing is that whenever you go, take some small gift for her. And you must take it, the hardness of that mother’s heart will decrease, her heart will become soft. Also, do not stay there overnight so that she feels the lack of her children, and that will happen.
The second result will also be that the bitter situations that existed between you and your mother or the bitterness of the situations will decrease. When the bitterness subsides, hearts will meet each other. When hearts meet, you will definitely be able to laugh and be happy with each other again.
One last thing:
And that is that remember that you can never achieve permanent happiness by staying apart. Nor can your mother achieve it. The permanent happiness of both of you is in being together. Therefore, never thought that I would be separated from them forever. Look! What they have done was their capacity, or their mistake. And what you will do will be your capacity; it will be your action. So try to see whatever comes from you positively.
This is actually your test too, so happiness and peace are in being together, not in being apart. Also, if you have to bend a little to move a matter forward, it is better to bend. There is a proverb in Urdu that says that only a bent tree bears fruit, so bend, maintain relationships, give peace, and take peace.