Attending the funeral of an ex-husband
I think this is a very emotional stage. Life is the most important thing for any human being but for any soul. So, is it appropriate to bring up your past affairs at this time or not? As the question asks, is it appropriate to attend the funeral of an ex-husband or not? And if there are children from this husband, then don’t things become more complicated at this time?
What things may be necessary to consider before attending the funeral?
Your relationship with your husband:
If your relationship has been going well, and the separation has also been done properly and with dignity, then in my opinion, going is not only appropriate but also necessary, perhaps very necessary. See, one thing is known in our society if you stay with someone’s happiness, stay, due to any compulsion. But do not lag behind someone’s grief. You must support him in this grief.
Obviously, time does not remain the same, it changes. Tomorrow, we too will face difficult times, so we will also need support in the same way. And also, when the separation has been done in a dignified manner, the high morals of such people require that they also be treated with high morals.
And even if the separation has not been done well, I think you should attend the funeral so that at least there is no wrong impression on your part. You should still have a positive attitude. Look, whatever happened in the past, let’s assume for a moment that the mistake was your husband’s, then if you go to his funeral, your respect will increase, not decrease.
And the second thing is regarding children, so remember, if there are children, then you will always have to show a positive attitude, at every step of life. Your children are watching your every step. These children of yours will do tomorrow what they see you doing today. So if you want to see your children become successful and good citizens, then first you have to sacrifice your desires. First you have to become good.
Your children’s emotions:
Let me tell you a very surprising and very deep thing. When the children were your husband, when you did not attend the funeral by putting your ego first, then remember that tomorrow, whenever the criticism of these children’s emotions comes out of their subconscious and comes to their consciousness, then they will make you feel your behavior very badly. Because whatever the husband was like, whether he was good or bad, but he was still the father of your children. Therefore, take care of the children’s emotions too.
Because when your adult children are likely to be grieving the loss of their father, this grief can keep them very much worried and the reason for this will be you alone. Yes, it is a different matter to openly discuss your intentions with your children so that nothing negative is hidden inside them.
Reaction of family and society:
Most people in the family and society generally understand the truth and have opinions accordingly. So when you reach the funeral of your husband, since this is a good deed, then in this case you will also have a good name in the family and society.
Well, being good in the eyes of the family and society should not be the first priority, because if you think about it from a religious angle, every religion commands to attribute every good thing to God. And this is right. So when your first priority is to please God, God will automatically put your respect in the heart of the family and society.
So, one of the advantages of prioritizing the first priority will be that even if people do not respond well due to lack of hope, there will be no sorrow, because the first priority is not the pleasure of the family and society, the pleasure of God is the priority. And this is a great goal.
Possible consequences of not attending:
When you did not attend the funeral, the biggest and most obvious impression will be that you have severed ties with your husband as well as all the people related to him. Therefore, when you do not attend his last rites, your entry into the husband’s family may never be possible for the rest of your life. This may be an inevitable consequence of your action, which you took on the occasion of his last rites.
To sum up:
This is one of the big decisions in life that we have written about. And remember, the impact of big decisions is also big. Their impact also lasts for a long time. So whatever decision you make, think carefully. When it is a decision about your life and the lives of your children, keep in mind that it can and will affect you as well as your children. So decide for yourself, make it for yourself.